Relationship Rule

The most important relationship rule:

the other person is never the problem!

Doing Right

Making good decisions is about doing the right thing,

in the right way, at the right time.

It is seeing what's needed and acting to fulfill that need, and not being swayed by people's demands and personalities.

Start and End

At the start of your day, ask yourself:

What is my purpose in life today?

At the end of the day, ask yourself:
What benefit did I take from today?
How did I benefit others?

What Do You See?

Think of someone who really annoys you and write a list of all the things you don't like about them. Now look at each of those weaknesses and ask yourself, 'Do I have some of these smae weaknesses in me?' "Well yes." We will find that whatever we 'see out there' exists within us to some degree. 'Out there' is a reflection of what is within.

This goes for the good too.

Withdraw

Just as a tortoise is able to withdraw into it's shell, at a moment's notice, we too can withdraw our attention away from what's happening around us. We can step back from our senses. . . and then step back again, from our thoughts and emotions.

Reconnect with the self, as a being.

A being, separate from the doing.

Kindness, Care and Compassion

Kindness, care and compassion emerge from a heart which is loving and true.

A kind soul never compares or competes, but is content.

A compassionate soul never judges or criticises, but maintains a merciful attitude.

A caring soul cares for the best in every soul.

Saying NO

Say 'no', and mean it.

Saying 'yes' when you would rather say 'no' is stressful!

Saying 'no' is difficult when we confuse rejection of a request with rejection of the person. Saying 'no' doesn't mean you don't like the person, just that you're refusing their current request.

Frozen In Time

Is there something you keep re-living? Could it be:

An event? An experience? Something you did? Somtheins someone else did? Something unfair?

What are you holding onto?

Where are you frozen in time?

When we're stuck somewhere in the past, we lose the beauty of the present moment.

Smile

Smiling saves energy and elicts a positive response from both others andyour own brain.

Affirmations

Affirmations are packed with energy and power. They can help and some say, heal. They can be used anywhere - as you wash dishes, as you drive, even as you walk!

What are affirming today!

We To Me

Going from living life for 'Me' to living 'We' involves the pleasure of selflessness.

It is the gradual discovery of what really matters to others.

Soul At Work

The soul is the deepest aspect of the self from which creativity, intuition, caring, compassion, meaning and purpose flow.

Bring all of you to work - your body, heart and soul. Integrate and align who you are, what you do and what you value.

Speak

Do you have to say everything you say?

If not, then why not cut back on what you don't need to say. Then after a few days, focus on saying what you do say - more softly, more slowly.

Speak less, speak softly, speak slowly and your mind will do the same.

Power of Presence

Presence is a state of mind that is free from distration.

The secret of handling distractions is, to interact with you mind as you would a child. Focus your attention, handle one item at a time and then move onto the next activity.

Your power of presence is developed when your mind is focused on the here and now.

Spotting the Good‏

We're usually very good at spotting mistakes. We can also develop the quality of spotting the good in others and situations. If I keep thinking "they are wrong", I create a barrier which blocks me from reaching my own goodness. By going beyond the curtain of negativity, I will see and feel the good in myself and others.

Change the Pattern

Inner silence helps to prevent us from being limited in our way of thinking. Silence allows us to stand back and observe our mind so we can change the patterns of thoughts that are not working.